This is a dua that I’ve been making a lot recently. I find it so comprehensive and complete. In sha Allah, it’ll be of immense benefit.
And those who say: “Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring the comfort of our eyes (i.e. those who please us immensely), and make us leaders for the pious.”
WAllahu alam, but I’ve seen that the happiest couples are those who are pleased with each other. And the happiest parents are those who are pleased with their children. Most of the times, this pleasure results from a strong attachment to the Deen of Allah [SWT] and a strong desire to do something to aid it.
May Allah give us what is mentioned in the dua, ameen.
P.S. (added 15/07/08) :
On the same note of marriage, please read this very beneficial excerpt:
People may say that you and I are not married because we are too fussy, or difficult to get along with, etc. etc. and perhaps we can analyze what they are saying and if we conclude that they are correct, then we can work hard towards rectifying that aspect of our character for the Pleasure of Allah. But having done that, we have to realize, that ultimately, we are not married because Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta’ala has Willed for us to be single at this point in time.
Now we have a choice. Either we can lose sleep over it, beat ourselves up every day, and feel really sorry for ourselves.
Or we can recognize that the time we have on our hands is a gift from Allah, an amaanah, not to be wasted in counter-productive thoughts and futile tears and fears.
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